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Understanding Teen Isolation:
How Early Childhood Shapes Communication
Rosanne Santos
October 13, 2023
Unlocking Teen Hearts: How Early Parenting Shapes Their Trust in Us
It's not uncommon for teenagers to isolate themselves when overwhelmed instead of confiding in adults about their problems. Surprisingly, this behavior might have its roots in how we handle their emotions during their toddler years.
When our children are young and still grappling with the complexities of their emotions, they often struggle to articulate what they're feeling. They resort to tantrums, throwing objects, and meltdowns as their primary means of communication. These outbursts are their way of reaching out to us for assistance in sorting, processing, and expressing their feelings in a healthy manner. Astonishingly, societal norms have traditionally dictated that we should punish them for this behavior – sending them to their rooms, imposing timeouts, or even resorting to spanking.
We inadvertently teach and train them to suppress their emotions. "Don't whine," we say. "Don't complain." "Your feelings are wrong." "Be quiet." Repeatedly, we convey the message that their emotional expressions are unwelcome. As a result, they learn to cope with their emotions in solitude, retreating to their rooms, a chair, or a corner.
Then, as they enter their teenage years, we expect them to feel secure in talking to us about their problems. We anticipate that they will somehow recognize that it's now acceptable to open up. However, subconsciously, they have been wired to think the opposite, shaped by the lessons of their formative years.
To foster healthy communication with your child, it's vital to grant them the permission to feel. Ensure they understand that their emotions are valid, no matter how trivial they may seem. Let them know that their voices are heard and valued.
With time, those childhood meltdowns over crayons may evolve into discussions about breakups, heartbreak, intimacy, or even depression. It's crucial for your child to feel that you will always be there to listen, no matter the size of their concern. Be the unwavering safe space they can turn to during their journey to adulthood. ~RS
“I nurture open communication with my child, valuing their emotions, and fostering a safe space for them to share their feelings.”
GOOD AFTERNOON. It's Friday, Oct. 13, and we're covering uncertainty at the top of the US House, a looming invasion of the Gaza Strip, and much more.
Need To Know
Speaker Scramble House Majority Leader Steve Scalise (R, LA-1) dropped out of the race to replace former House Speaker Kevin McCarthy (R, CA-20), leaving the immediate future of the position up in the air. Scalise had topped Rep. Jim Jordan (R, OH-4) in a Tuesday internal caucus vote, 113-99, to proceed as the party's nominee. Gaza Ground Attack Looms Editor's note: Since the below writing, Israel called on the United Nations to help evacuate roughly 1.1 million residents from northern Gaza. See updates here. Israeli military officials said yesterday they would seek to end the presence of Hamas in Gaza, likely portending a coming ground invasion into the territory. Israel previously mobilized 360,000 reservists and has begun amassing forces along the Gaza border. Experts say a ground assault into Gaza—140 square miles, with 2.3 million residents (see maps here and here)—is likely to result in a prolonged conflict. Actors Strike Continues Negotiations between major Hollywood studios and the Screen Actors Guild-American Federation of Television and Radio Artists have hit a roadblock, with both sides stating they cannot find a middle ground on significant issues. The actors union has been on strike since July, with disputes revolving around compensation and the use of artificial intelligence in the entertainment industry. | In The Know Sports, Entertainment, & Culture> "Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour" concert film opens today, expecting to haul in up to $150M in its opening weekend at the box office (More) | > International Olympic Committee suspends Russia's Olympic committee for incorporating sports councils based in Ukraine (More) > Jerry Seinfeld, Gal Gadot, and Michael Douglas among 700 Hollywood figures who signed letter condemning Hamas and calling for release of Israeli hostages (More) Science & Technology> Researchers propose method to build paved roads on the moon using focused beams of sunlight; approach could facilitate rover missions, potential future lunar bases (More) > Brain science consortium releases sweeping package of 21 papers providing the most detailed atlas of the human brain produced to date (More) Business & Markets> US stock markets close lower (S&P 500 -0.6%, Dow -0.5%, Nasdaq -0.6%) snapping four-session winning streak (More) > The consumer price index rose 3.7% in September compared to the same month last year, slightly above expectations (More) Politics & World Affairs> Sen. Robert Menendez (D-NJ) charged with acting as a foreign agent to the Egyptian government; comes in addition to bribery charges (More) > Suspect arrested after wounding five police officers in Minnesota while executing a search warrant; suspect named as 64-year-old Karl Thomas Holmberg (More) Related Stories |
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When and Where to See Tomorrow’s “Ring of Fire” Solar Eclipse
Your Guide to Tomorrow's 'Ring of Fire' Solar Eclipse
So, here's the buzz: Tomorrow, a fantastic celestial show is coming to a sky near you, especially if you happen to be in the Western Hemisphere. It's known as a "ring of fire" or annular solar eclipse, and it's a spectacle you won't want to miss. As the moon positions itself between the sun and Earth at its farthest point from our planet, fortunate onlookers will witness an extraordinary sight – a black circle with a fiery red rim where the radiant sun used to be.
According to the experts at NASA, those lucky enough to live along the annular path can enjoy this visual treat for approximately five minutes. In the United States, several states, including Oregon, California, Nevada, Utah, Arizona, Colorado, New Mexico, and Texas, fall along this path. However, even if you're not in one of these areas, you may still catch a glimpse of a partial eclipse.
Now, before you rush off to find out when and where to witness this celestial event, we've got a crucial safety tip for you: Staring directly at the sun is never a good idea, and this rule applies even during solar eclipses. If you're planning to partake in the eclipse viewing, make sure to grab some certified eclipse glasses, create a DIY pinhole projector, or explore the captivating eclipse shadows, rather than risking a direct gaze at the eclipse itself. Your eyes will thank you!
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